You don’t have to do it all
“Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.” — Melody Beattie
This quote speaks to the level of control we have in our relationships. All we can control is ourselves and we can honor what we bring to the table. That is a super difficult thing to deal with a lot of the time, right?
Why can’t they see it my way? Why won’t they do things the way I want?
I have often lost sight of my lack of control and have put forth a ton of effort and received little in return.
This has left me feeling exhausted and resentful. And when those times appear again, I turn to this quote. It’s almost like I can feel the burden lifting from my shoulders.
No matter what relationship…friend, relative, sibling or lover…there is more than one person in the equation.
We carry each other on this beautiful journey. And sometimes one is weak and one is strong and sometimes one is scared and one is ashamed. The scenarios vary almost daily.
Look at the effort you are putting into your relationships. Are you sharing the load? What would it look like if you stopped trying to do it all and let others carry their share? Or, do you need to be more vulnerable and let someone carry you?
If you want to stop trying to control it all, reach out to me for a complimentary coaching session.